The search for an ideal balance – or does it even exist?

I was just having a conversation with someone about the various complexities surrounding human behavior in the context of relationships (personal, social and/or formal). What preplexes me the most is when I observe people suddenly altered from their actual personalities into some imaginably pretentious individuals to please others. If the basis of social bonding is dependent on self-abnegation, then I would rather forego the experience. If you are willing to lose yourself to attain something on a material level, what  worth would that achievement surmount to without the core (the actual ‘you’) that should be encompassing it’s existence? I told this person that once I had realized I posessed everything (non-material) within reach I did not feel the need to go out of my way to acquire it. You need three things to make it through life;  (a) Love (b) Faith, and (c) Ambition (purpose/desire to engage in a meaningful activity) and once these atributes are self-inherent in your word and deed, you can be counted as a valuable member of the society.

In order to elaborate on the above, I would like to shed some light on the necessity of creating a circle of trust. A circle of trust that will diametrically surround your being and protect your energy from external/unwanted dispersion. This circle is meant for you, and it will protect your inner-resources from depletion and cause further growth in strength. Most of the external attacks be they from people, close relatives, friends (who go bad) or simply anyone who cannot bear to see you grow  and develop transpire when your weak points are located, doors unintentionally left ajar, or windows you forgot existed have been stealthily infiltrated. A good analogy would be a virus infecting the computer because it was vulnerable and unprotected. To reiterate my point, a circle of trust requires your presence in the center, from which point you channel and control your protective gear. This circle will act like a halo and surround you day in and day out, in your personal and professional sphere by allowing you room to be yourself, and yet posess the facility of learning and evolving. Hence, if you have a circle of trust surrounding your presence, you will never find the need to alter your behavior or personality to accomodate anyone, but rather allow YOU to become an agent of postive influence.

eschatology ad verbum

Words are beautiful and when they are fused together coherently to create an image, represent an idea, a thought or a feeling, it becomes language. For as long as I can remember I have been interested in learning and researching the intricate fabric of lingual and cognitive sciences. If my doctoral thesis subject is approved, I will be found scattering my musings on the pages of my blog. Like restless birds in constant search for the skies, I will traverse the infinite shores of my consciousness to observe and collect the hidden pearls of knowledge.

Islam, Modernity & Science by Prof. Michael Lessnoff